Do you know the difference between effort and action?
We have been lead to believe that to get things done we need to push, strive, hurt a little. In actual fact the best way to accomplish things is to take purposeful action and drop the drama, and the angst. This takes full consciousness, the more you do it the more you will be able to know when you are efforting or actioning. That is why being in a state of flow is such an amazing state, full out action without the resistance, angst and drama.
Tip: Change your physiology, breath deeper and stay in the moment.