The number one key emotional skill for influencing others

Oprah WinfreyElevation. Studies of positive emotions such as elevation have found that one person can physiologically impact another person in a positive way, just by being at their best.

When we witness goodness or greatness in another, what happens is the “vagus” nerve is triggered in the brain to produce the hormone oxytocin, which has been labeled the “love” or “connection” molecule. Your body goes into that mode and actually mirrors inside what it observes outside. How’s that for influencing others?

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How to get others to do their best work

Managing people is another way of saying ‘I am here to serve others’. When you take this perspective, it changes everything. Now, you no longer need to control and direct, manage or make do. You now come from a place where you share, serve and mentor.

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You are in the right place

I was discussing with a friend a certain predicament I found myself in. Yes, I was having a whinge. Something I don’t do often but sometimes it feels good to download. I always ask the person I am downloading to for permission first and I try and remain conscious, telling myself why I am extraverting my discomfort.

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It takes a village

Having spent the holidays with family and friends and seeing how we all impact one another for better or worse, it reminded me of the ancient African proverb, “It takes a whole village to raise a child.”  This phrase always made sense to me on a practical level, it is quite reasonable that it would take more than just your immediate parents or care givers to help raise a human being. An extended support network would provide different points of view, resources, experience, mentoring opportunities not to mention different and varied learning opportunities.

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Better than a “Get out of jail free” card

get out of jail free cardOver the past few weeks we have had a house full of family staying over for the Christmas break. Since we live in beautiful Byron Bay, who wouldn’t want to come and pull up stumps for a while. Even though Byron is an idyllic location, living in a house full ( 12 in total) ages ranging from 9 – 47 can be chaotic, challenging and full of fun and games.

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