In this video I share a quick tip on how to wrap up a performance conversation with a member of your team. Essentially it’s a matter of having your team member summarise the outcome and next actions of the meeting in writing and then sharing that with you. Watch the video for more details.
As an executive coach I am in the fortunate position of knowing what most people find challenging in their role and the people they manage. I have put together a list of reasons that most people become dissatisfied with their jobs.
It is estimated that 60% of all management problems are the result of faulty communication. How well do you communicate with your people? How will they know what you want them to do unless you communicate it clearly and constructively?
Answer this question. Why.
You need to look at your life, your situation and ask yourself seriously, Why do I want this? Why is it important to me? If you have enough whys the hows will take care of themselves. You will find a way.
See, you need to be able to create an outcome for yourself, the why has to be based on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
When we base it on what we don’t want, like not wanting to be overweight, we lose some weight and then many of us give up. There have been many books written about how to lose the last 5 kilos. Why, because we have “solved” the problem.
However, if we look at it from the perspective of creating an outcome, like,
- I want to be fit, strong and healthy so I can be role model for my children,
- I want to have enough energy to be the best at what I do,
- I want to be able to handle all the demands placed on me at work and not feel slammed at the end of the day
In order to change any habit you literally have to become a different person.
You will need to change the way you think and feel about the activity you want to transform. This is where it gets challenging.
First things first, let’s start with this. Why do you want to change?
Get the conversation happening in your head and let your body know to be ready for some changes.
In the following weeks I will share with you some short, practical tips and strategies so you EAT, THINK and MOVE better, because we know that feeling healthy, fit and strong are some of the best ways we can be our best at home and at work.
Let me know what you are interested in? I would love to hear from you, you can leave a comment below
2. Stop judging yourself, treat yourself with kindness and compassion, watch your self-talk
3. Make physical activity a priority in your life. Move your body, it was meant to carry you around with ease and efficiency.
4. Allow time to stop, relax and feel a sense of gratitude everyday.
( 5 minutes every day practice a relaxed state of awareness). Read more »
Learn what lights you up and do more of that with what you have, in the time you have, and with the resources you have in this moment. It stands out because so few of us act on our inspiration.
• Listen – Learn to listen to others, really listen, with an open mind and an open heart. You will learn more about a person, situation or event, faster.
• Be accepting – Accept other peoples’ values and don’t measure them by your own.
• Don’t judge – Judgment and comparison kill team spirit and creativity. – How often do you go into a meeting expecting it to be a waste of time, and it is? Change your perception for a start, then act on that. Be different in those meetings.
• Learn to acknowledge – Acknowledgment is vital. Be proactive in this space. Who have you genuinely acknowledged this day?
What is another essential quality that makes a great manager?
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When the same situation repeats itself and you respond differently.
When you don’t have to problem solve a situation away. You observe it without a reaction, and inquire, be curious, hold it lightly, have no expectation for it to be any other way than what it is.
When people start to not only see you differently, they start to treat you differently.
When things start to fall apart around you, you have faith that it is only temporary and look for the value in the situation.
Have you really changed lately?
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